You Are The One You've Been Waiting For

Bringing Courageous Love To Intimate Relationships

In this book, Richard Schwartz, the developer of the Internal Family Systems Model, applies the IFS Model to the topic of intimate relationships in an engaging, understandable, and personal style. Therapists and lay people alike will find this book to be an insightful exploration of how cultivating a relationship with the Self—the wise center of clarity, calmness, and compassion in each of us—creates the foundation for courageous love and resilient intimacy: the capacity to sustain and nourish a healthy intimate relationship. Self-leadership also allows us to embrace our partner's feedback and use it to discover aspects of ourselves that seek healing. The book includes user-friendly exercises to facilitate learning.

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Soft Cover
238 pages
ISBN 9780615249322

Price

$25.00 USD

Reviews

"This profound and readable book provides clear guidelines for therapists and clients alike. In ways that complement my own work, clients learn how to unload the cultural and family burdens that block intimacy by keeping them locked in rigid gender roles. Therapists learn an empowering and practical process for treating couples. I enthusiastically recommend this book to anyone serious about improving relationships in the world today!"

Terrence Real, author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You? and The New Rules of Marriage

"It has been said that before you can love another, you have to love yourself. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For teaches us how to do that by offering a clear, compelling, intelligent model for loving our inner demons and freeing ourselves to embrace greater intimacy. Thank you, Dick, for this wonderful book."

Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, author of How Can I Forgive You? and After the Affair

"This highly original book offers critical new insights into obstacles to the dance of intimacy. Most of us have inner exiled parts that carry burdens of shame and abandonment from our past. These interfere with our capacity for intimacy. Dick Schwartz shows us how to use the exiles our partners trigger in us to find and heal the source--our original attachment injuries. This releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships."

Bessel A. van der Kolk, MD, Medical Director, The Trauma Center, Professor of Psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine