U-Turn to Return From Reactivity to Self-Leadership: An IFS Approach to Increasing Connection and Deepening Intimacy


Cathy Curtis, LCSW and Toni Crossen, MFT


Subud Center

3800 Old San Jose Rd

Soquel, CA


March 12-15, 2020

Thursday - Sunday

A Retreat for Individuals and Couples, Nonresidential


Richard Schwartz coined the phrase “u-turn”. This quite literally means learning to turn your attention toward yourself and away from the external environment for validation.

This retreat is designed to help people understand the multi-layered reasons for their reactivity. People often use behavior resulting in the opposite of their intention. Some examples of these ineffective behaviors are, shaming, blaming, withdrawing and criticizing. Often
people use these behaviors as a protection method for the more vulnerable feelings and exiled parts underneath.

This workshop will open up the possibility for more choices in how to respond to others. These new choices can lead to more closeness and intimacy in your life.

We will help you explore your own reactivity and the vulnerabilities inside that drive it. In addition, you will learn how to help those vulnerable parts which will then lessen reactivity and allow for
clearer, more heart felt communication. This can also help increase compassion toward yourself and others.

We will also cover what it means to make a “self-led return” in conversation with another. We will teach how to speak for your internal experience in a self-led way. Speaking for your experience rather than blaming, etc. makes it much easier for the other person to listen. This greatly increases your chances of being heard and met.
This retreat is based on the Internal Family Systems model of Richard Schwartz and the Intimacy from the Inside Out work of Toni Herbine-Blank.

You will walk away with a basic road map of a self-led communication.  Concepts and exercises will be given to help you tune inside, spend time connecting and developing an internal relationship with your vulnerable parts, and then return to the external self to speak for your experience in a way that brings more connections.


24 IFS CE’s provided for therapists

Coffee tea and light snacks will be provided.


This retreat is currently full. To get on the wait list email tonicrossen@gmail.com




Mail your nonrefundable deposit check of

$200 made payable to:

Toni Crossen
725 Front Street, #200
Santa Crruz, CA 95060

Early Bird Registration is $650
- Ends January 31 -
Registration after January 31 is $750

Please include your name, email and phone if info is not already present on your check.



For more information and to register, please contact Toni Crossen at tonicrossen@gmail.com and/or call 831.239.8909